This is the first book my husband read after many years and many requests. We actually fought over who got to read it! (I bought a second copy!) The items in this book have helped my family to deal with our feelings regarding infertility and deal with the losses weve suffered with less negativity. Although we arent there yet, weve begun assessing adoption as a choice for addition to our family. With the help of this book, weve started to feel very positive about our situation and look forward to the choices we will make in the future.
This book was required reading for the adoption agency we are going through in Dallas, Texas. And I am so glad that it was! The book is partitioned into three parts: 1) Dealing with infertility 2) Making your adoption plan 3) Raising children in a family built by adoption. The first part really helped my husband and I discuss and integrate the losses we have been feeling since our diagnosis of infertility. The second part helped us define our wants, needs, and emotions regarding our choices in adoption. And the third part will be helpful on our lifelong journey of learning how to be parents of adopted children. After experiencing infertility, we definitely appreciated the authors calm, rationale process and frank style in communicating about these very emotional issues. It gave words to some issues that we hadnt yet defined, but were definitely feeling.
This book was non sensical to me. If anything it tried to disuade my husband and I from persuing IVF etc. It is bombarded with PC crap and one cannot say " give a baby up for adoption" or "real mom" she completely sounds pompous and doesnt seem like any advice she would give you would have an ounce of care for the feelings of one going through IF. I think this book was a sham and i regret purchasing something written by someone so high on their credentials but lacking in real life desperation.
